Saturday, May 19, 2012

Butch in relation to femmes, and vice-versa


i may only be butch for straight women.

i possess very few butch qualities, but the ones i have, i hold as deeply and as seriously as any butch. but i only feel those qualities when straight women are involved. example: i believe that every woman deserves to be taken out by a gentleman. he should pick you up, take you where you are going, pay for any expenses that should arise, and treat you with respect the entire time. if no straight man appears to be providing this service for a deserving straight woman of my acquaintance, i may feel obliged to offer.

this is completely different from my relationship with my partner, to whom i am always the femme. (and delightedly so, because he knows how to do all those gentlemanly things!) because i know how to be a good butch AND a good femme, i would never act on the above-mentioned sense of obligation as long as i am otherwise attached.